Editor’s Note: In today’s article, Dr. Joel F. Wade shares how money problems tend to happen gradually and then suddenly.
He details how the only way to establish strong, positive and consistent habits is to create rituals that hold us to those behaviors.
The same holds true in the investment world…
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My client Frank was having a very hard time with his money. To paraphrase Ernest Hemingway’s bankrupt character Mike in The Sun Also Rises, money problems tend to happen gradually, then suddenly.
Frank was, fortunately, still in the “gradual” stage, feeling anxious and a bit untethered. The frustrating thing was that he knew exactly what he needed to do… He just didn’t do it.
Well, to be more precise, he usually didn’t do it.
Only when he lost track of his investments and saw that his credit card balances were creeping up did he start worrying about bills he hadn’t prepared for.
Then he would pay attention to his spending and check diligently on his investments… for maybe a week or a month.
But when the anxiety subsided as he adjusted his behavior, he would begin to feel less urgency and eventually the old habits would reassert themselves, slowly re-creating the same problems that had troubled him before.
And the cycle would repeat itself.
It just takes too much energy, focus and willpower to consciously think of everything all the time.
So what should you do?
As the great American psychologist William James said about 100 years ago…
The more of the details of our daily life we can hand over to the effortless custody of automatism, the more our higher powers of mind will be set free for their own proper work. There is no more miserable human being than one in whom nothing is habitual but indecision, and for whom the lighting of every cigar, the drinking of every cup, the time of rising and going to bed every day, and the beginning of every bit of work, are subjects of express volitional deliberation.
This is one of the enduring truths of human nature. If we want to establish a behavior over time, we need to make it automatic.
Unfortunately for James, it turns out that the “miserable human being” he was describing was himself.
As his biographer Robert D. Richardson wrote, James was…
A man who really had no habits – or who lacked the habits he most needed, having only the habit of having no habits – and whose life was itself a ‘buzzing blooming confusion’ that was never really under control.
Sometimes we can teach best what we most need to learn. Apparently James was quite good at that regarding habits.
So how do we establish strong, positive and consistent habits? We create rituals that hold us to those habits.
Rituals in Action
Rituals are rote behaviors that create structure in our lives. They can take the form of an if-then statement:
- “If the clock shows that it’s 5:30 a.m., then I’ll get out of bed, get my workout clothes on, drink some water and be at the gym by 6.”
- “If I spend more than $100 for food and supplies on a given day, then I’ll spend less than $50 for food and supplies the next day.”
- “If I’m done with breakfast, then I’ll check my accounts to make sure I’m up to date with my investments and accounts.”
- “If it’s 9 a.m., then I will sit down and practice my instrument for the next three hours.”
- “If it’s written in my planner or to-do list, then I will do it.”
Successful people actually use less willpower than less successful people because they set up effective rituals, appointments and accountability structures that build into their day what they would otherwise need willpower to achieve.
This can be essential for any creative process as well. As this quote attributed to W. Somerset Maugham suggests…
I write only when inspiration strikes. Fortunately it strikes every morning at nine o’clock sharp.
Think about what you want to achieve in terms of investing or anything else that matters to you.
First, define two to three goals that are important to you, that are possible for you and that would improve your quality of life enough that you will have the energy to pursue them.
Next, define, very specifically, the kinds of habits that – if you practiced them regularly – would lead you to those goals.
Take some time with this.
You may not have some of your goals very well defined. Or they may not be important enough to you, in which case you’ll need to either let them go or rework them into something that is important enough to you.
It also may take some thought to determine what the habits are that would effectively move you toward those goals. Make sure they’re not too abstract. You should be able to easily imagine yourself doing them.
Once you’ve defined your goals and the habits that will get you there, create rituals that will make it easier to do those habits reliably.
Make if-then sequences, where the “if” is something you already reliably do or an event that you can count on: “If I wake up…” or “If I’ve poured my first cup of coffee…” or “If the clock says 10 a.m…”
Follow that with the corresponding habit you want to make automatic:
- “If I’ve poured my first cup of coffee, then I’ll read today’s investment advice and check my positions.”
- “If the clock says 8 p.m., then I’ll sit down and map out my priority to-do items for tomorrow.”
When we create rituals like this, they let our entire systems know that we are ready, that it is time to work; they shepherd all of our psychological, emotional and physical resources and make them available to us, so we can focus and absorb ourselves in our tasks.
It’s the daily consistency that makes such rituals so powerful.
Once my client did this with his money goals, he was able to perform the habits fairly easily – because he wasn’t wasting his energy fighting against his older, harmful habits.
By forming and committing to these rituals, you are taming your impulses and feelings of the moment to move together with you, to work with you toward your most cherished goals.
That’s how you get your habits to work for you, so you don’t have to work against them.
Building these rituals makes achieving your goals easier, more joyful… and much more likely.